Have you had an experience where either you, or your partner just weren’t able to “follow through” with the mood? Is it something that happens regularly

How did you feel at the time?

How do you manage these situations? Are you ever able to get back “in the swing”? If so how?

 

All the time! Due to an injury affecting his back and the nerves to other areas and the meds he takes daily my spouse literally just shut down on me in that arena. He wouldn’t even help me and 2 years ago I gave up on even self care. I am a person who needs the other person involved, some way. While I have an amazing imagination it just isn’t enough for me. To say frustrated is an understatement. To have him act as if it is no big deal, and make me feel unwanted an even bigger deal. What made it even worse was he would look on the internet at these half naked women, get pictures from them, talk shit to them and ignore me, but if I even mentioned another man he got defensive and pissy.

Once we had an open marriage and life and time and things kind of put that on the back burner. I have talked to him several times about having a play partner. Now I am not someone who just randomly grabs any guy.. I want and require someone who will be with me and me alone. Who isn’t one who thinks he only comes over to get laid then go home. So if you will a friend/partner. But they have to understand above all else my loyalty is with my husband. I realize he is not in a situation of choice, but some of the actions he has chosen certainly did nothing to make me feel like it wasn’t me he wasn’t interested in any longer. We are working on that, because I got tired of yelling and just shut down on him. Not something I would recommend in normal aspects but it worked with him. So he is making efforts to offer to be intimate to assist me which is good, but is fully aware I need that full act not every time but most of the time. I have even suggested that he could play with my friend when I find one. Not like that.. but in a tease me torment me hold me down position. God that thought alone makes me wiggly and squirmy.

So here is hoping we can find a happy middle for both of us, without me killing him first… joking I wouldn’t do that..